I am a teacher and I like what I do. As someone who works with minors, I realize that I have to be careful about how I act around the students. I understand that teachers have violated their trust that they were given and that is a cause for concern.
I really hate living my life as though someone is watching. I am poly, kinky, and my sexuality is somewhat flexible. I would like to embrace all of that and more, but I know that if my students or their parents find out that I am not a "moral person", then I will lose my job, my career. "[T]he possibility of being exposed and fired for our consensual (but stigmatized) sexual practices is a very real concern for many kinky people."
So I have a Fetlife account and I am agonizing about what picture to use. I don't want my face to show, because I don't want to be recognizable. Even this blog is a danger, since it could be found by a student or parent. I tried creating a whole new Gmail, but that just didn't work for me. But I decided I would just start writing, because a life lived in fear isn't a life at all. I don't use my real last name here, so that's something, at least.
I will keep my face obscured on 'R' and 'NC-17' sites. I will try and keep it separate. But I think I am just going to have to live with the fact that I can't change who I am and that is both teacher and a person with flexible sexuality. That is simply the way of it, and so I will have to figure out a way to reconcile those two things.
Just remember, if you're worried about sensitive information here, you could always go back to the electronic venue where we first met (hopefully, that's suitably obscure).
ReplyDeleteI have concerns about where the money goes for that little service. I may not fully trust my Google overlords, but this feels like the lesser evil.
ReplyDeleteI do miss the community, though. Thanks for stopping in. :-)