"Go ahead and sell me out and I'll lay your shit bare."

What is the difference between standing up for yourself and being adversarial? I have been told by so many people I should just ask for what I want. I should communicate my wants and desires. Hell, I've written about it recently.

Guess what, telling people what I want is a good way to get screwed over.

I say: I want to be treated like I matter.
They say: you are always fighting with me.

I say: I expect my time to be respected.
They say: Why are you so inflexible?

I say: I want to give as good as I get
They say: All you ever want is sex.

I say: I'd like to focus on my concerns. I'd like to feel like you care.
They say: Well why didn't you talk about your problems?

I say: You fall asleep when I try to talk to you.
They say: That's because something is wrong. Why don't you listen to me when I tell you?

I say: Text messaging is a bad way to discuss this.
They say: Well, its not a problem for anyone else. You're just too negative.

I say: I'd appreciate it if you'd ask to spend time with me, then I could tell you about my problems.
They say: I'm sorry I ignore you. (Nothing changes)

I say: I'm having problems and nothing is getting better. I am starting to think you want me to leave.
They say: I'm sorry there isn't any other option.

I can communicate what I want until I'm blue in the face and cows drive tractors home. It doesn't get me what I want. Because I do it via text message and I get dumped, every fucking time. I think my uncle was right. From now on, in person or with quill and parchment.