"But the mother and child reunion Is only a motion away..."

I haven't spoken to my mother. She hasn't called. I know she is waiting for me to call her.

I am really glad that I didn't give up Disneyland. The case has been rescheduled for for 9/13. The DA office neglected to inform either the victim's advocate office or my mother that the hearing was cancelled. The assigned DA had to go into surgery. Thankfully someone did come and explain to my mother, so she is better prepared for what she will need to do for the hearing in September. It wasn't my mother's fault, but I would have been livid if I had cancelled my trip only to find out the hearing was cancelled.

There was a lot of discussion about whether or not my mother is toxic. A friend of mine, who knows my mother and has spent time with her, made a salient point. It's not that my mother is toxic, but that she simply doesn't have the social awareness or skills to communicate well. My mother is not neurotypical and so I interpret her behavior through that lens. Yes, she is very self-centered.

I need to think very carefully about some boundaries and figure out how to explain them to my mother. I am thinking that a letter might be my best way. I can write it carefully and explain what my boundaries are going to be and how they will be enforced. It will not go over well. I have to make sure that I am all right with making my mother upset.

I think I will draft my letter and bring it to my therapy appointment next week. It will help to have someone who isn't emotionally invested in either me or my mother take a look at what I am trying to communicate.