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January 11, 2019

“Waiting for someone to tell me it's my turn to decide...”

I like the term emotional housekeeping. I don’t know if I have heard it before, but I wrote it yesterday and I find it quite apt.

Keto finally got in touch with me. He admitted that communication is not his strong point and apologized. I didn’t yell or make a fuss. He asked about seeing me and I politely told him that my weekend was already spoken for. We agreed to be better about staying in touch and we are currently discussing doing something next weekend.

I hope that this doesn’t become a problem.

 The other bit of housekeeping was with regards to DA. I told him that I need more time to heal and that I’d let him know if and when I felt capable of interaction.

Against my friends’ advice, DA and I spoke about his choice to show up at the dance venue last week. I felt it was a very productive discussion because the conversation helped me come to a decision. DA told me that he came to the venue because he had hoped to “run into me.” He never let me know his intention. I was supposed to guess. When we did see each other, he was caught off guard and didn’t say anything, which made his intentions super clear. DA claimed that couldn’t find me for the rest of the evening, but he said he wanted to see me, no really.

I don’t have to deal with his bullshit or his games, so I won't. DA has hurt too many people. It seems that the only way to avoid any further pain is to avoid DA until he learns how to treat people with kindness and consideration. That's a day I’m not sure I’ll ever see.

There’s one other reason I don’t want to communicate with DA. I believe DA misses me, well he misses me for certain things that his girlfriend can't provide. Since the end of fair, he has wanted to talk to me about his performances and get my feedback.

His current girlfriend, yes the one who allegedly wouldn't allow us to be friends, told him to call me to discuss the dance venue. I’m sure it was because she understands how much DA and I value each other. Ok, I don’t believe that at all. I think that she has begun to fathom how needy DA can be. I wonder if she is hoping to offload some of the burden? I guess there aren’t many possible candidates after she purged DA’s social network.

Aren't I #blessed that she will trust me to take on his crap? 

Well, whether I’m right or wrong doesn’t matter. DA had the run of fair to ask for my feedback and work on our friendship. It will be easier to avoid him now, so I see no reason to bother spending any more energy on him. I just have figure out how to not to. That’s been a difficult habit to break.

I like today's song, it is something I would like to force a couple of people to listen to on repeat for hours until it got through their thick skulls that the world doesn't revolve around them.


Today's Song - King of Anything by Sarah Bareilles

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